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Lina Iniya Dahlquist was born as second child to Frederik and Dayamai Dahlquist in the Swedish city of Goteborg on Earth. This is where she grew up. Unlike her older brother Anders, who was very private and reserved, Lina was a rather outgoing child. As a child she always wanted to be in the center of the attention. Lina herself had never had the closest relationship to her older brother. Her older brother always seemed to be her father’s favourite child, but Anders died due to a tragic accident when he was eighteen years old. This was of course a blow for the whole family.<br><br>  

From one day to the next, the childhood ended for Lina. Because of the loss of his oldest son, his father suffered from depression. Then fourteen-year-old Lina also felt guilty for not having had the best relationship with her older brother. Her deceased brother was put on a pedestal by her father and it seemed that Lina, could never be ‘adequate’ and was not able to do anything correctly in her father’s eyes. Lina was constantly compared to her ‘perfect’ older brother.<br><br>  

This changed her. When she was at home, she often retreated into her room where she read a lot and fled into the world of books. She also started running to clear her mind. Towards her father she played tough and put on a hard shell to protect herself. As a normal teenager she also wanted to spend time with her friends and have fun. She wanted to have a normal life and not grieve all the time. However, her father saw this as a sign that she did not really miss her brother as he did not understand her way of dealing with the loss. This only served to further divide her from her father.<br><br>  

The fact that her father constantly compared her to her “perfect” brother and she could never measure up to him lead to the fact that Lina really started to believe in her inadequacy. She has a lot of self-doubts and has to fight the thought that her father might have been right and she is not good enough at anything. This is the reason why she developed a work ethic that values hard work as she constantly tries to overcome that feeling of being inadequate. She wants to proof it to herself (as well as to her father). She tends to be overcommitting though.