Psychology Primer: Counseling Styles: Difference between revisions

Some forms of counseling, often called “reality therapy” are confrontational, and prone to interrupting the client to seize upon a particular revelatory statement. Reality therapists are also prone to challenging assumptions or statements with provocative statements of their own, such as “You don’t really believe that”, or “Get out of your head. Stop telling me what you THINK and tell me what you are FEELING”. Another technique employed by reality therapists involves allowing their disbelief or skepticism to show on their faces, or sitting for prolonged periods of uncomfortable silence, after which the client inevitably asks if they are going to say something, and the RT therapist says something to the effect of, “I’m just waiting for you to cut the crap and say something meaningful”. Other counselors, particularly those practicing the more humanistic “Gestalt” type of therapy are more apt to let down some of their “distancing” techniques by mirroring the client’s posture; making observations to the client about their affect, maybe a frown that came upon their face, and rather than inquiring about what was said, ask about what was being felt when they made that face. Some counselors deconstruct the client’s statements, using a technique called “reflective listening” which involves a lot of statements like “What I’m hearing you say is…” wherein they either amplify what was being said, or sometimes introduce a paradoxical interpretation designed to elicit a response which confirms or denies what the counselor’s “interpretation” is of their statement. This leads to further examination of what the client is really saying, or trying to conceal behind their actual statements. One counseling style utilized by the ACH in the above example was to adopt, temporarily, the world view of the client and use that to help the client reason through what they are experiencing, or point out the logical or illogical assumptions presented therein. Some will give direct answers to the client’s questions about “what do you think this means”, based upon their understanding of their particular school of thought, while others will refuse to do so and simply put the question back to the client as to what their interpretation of the situation is. The fact of the matter is, there is not any one technique that is necessarily right or wrong, nor should you feel compelled to adopt any one method.